The Hidden Edge by Jodie Rogers

Author:Jodie Rogers [Rogersv, Jodie]
Language: eng
Format: epub
ISBN: 9781119807742
Publisher: Wiley
Published: 2021-07-06T00:00:00+00:00

How Heavy Is Your Glass?

In my Mental Fitness workshops, I include a number of simple yet powerful demonstrations. One of the simplest exercises is holding up a glass of water and asking people to guess how heavy it is. People shout out numbers. Sometimes one bright spark says, ‘It depends’, or they make a reference to optimism or pessimism (glass half full/empty). The point I'm making with this demonstration is that it doesn't matter how heavy it is, what matters is how long I hold it.

The longer I hold on to it, the heavier it becomes, and the more my arm aches. The more pain I feel, the more focus it steals from me. The more attention it has, the more I complain about it, and the more frustrating it is. It becomes more and more and more difficult to hold as it becomes heavier and heavier and heavier, even though its weight hasn't changed. The issue is that I am holding on to it.

This is exactly how you should think about your negative thoughts and the stories you tell yourself: I'm not good enough, I don't deserve it, I'm too old, too young, too fat, too thin, I'm not ready, not yet … whatever they might be. This is how your team should think about those unhelpful thoughts keeping you from your goals – ‘We'll never reach this years’ target', ‘How can we increase penetration when it's already at 80%!’ Whatever thoughts are holding you back, just like this glass of water, the more you hold on to them, the more distraction and discomfort they will bring. The solution is quite simple: to release yourself and your teams, you need to put down that glass of water; you need to let go of those thoughts that are contaminating your mind and your mental fitness.

Our ways of thinking are habitual. To change them takes effort, just like trying to break any habit. To quote Mark Manson, ‘You can't grow muscle without challenging it with greater weight. You can't build emotional resilience without forging through hardship. You can't build a better mind without challenging your own beliefs and assumptions’. That's exactly what we're going to work on: tuning into the thoughts in your mind and those of your team.

People often say to me, ‘Oh, I don't know why I always think this way. I want to stop but I just can't’. Well, most likely, you just don't know how to. Being told to think positively really isn't helpful. I'm going to give you strategies, tools, techniques, and exercises to help break that apart for you. Changing your habits and your habitual ways of thinking requires a commitment and effort from you. If you're up for it, I'm going to show you exactly how to do that. These are tools for you, but you can also use them with your teams and the people you care about to help them reframe some of their more limiting thinking patterns.

We need to reposition mental

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